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How to Change Your Script

Presenter:

School of Life

Time:

2:44

Summary

Unfortunately, we go around the world with scripts in our minds. That is to say collections of expectations about how events will unfold and how we should best respond to them. These tell us a lot about our pasts, but the tragedy is that, unaware they exist, we let them determine our futures.

Transcript

Unfortunately for every one, we seem to go around the world with scripts in our minds. A script is a collection of expectations about how events will unfold, and how we should best respond to them built up out of the worst moments of our childhoods, and our most immature and frightened seductions there from, here are some representative scripts.

When I make a mistake, I will get shouted out uncontrollably. Therefore, I must never admit I'm at fault. Or when I trust someone, they betray me. Therefore, I must never open up. Or if I get too emotional, there will be chaos. Therefore, I must be very stern and detached. Or, if a partner

is out of contact for a while, this means they've abandoned me. Therefore, I need to flare up at any threat of absence.

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