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The Second Arrow


Dr. Robin Boudette




Our unpleasant experiences can cause us pain, but it's the way react to this pain that causes us to suffer.


Whenever we experience something, we experience it in one of three ways as either pleasant, unpleasant, or neutral. If it's something we find pleasant, we tend to react with attachment. We wanna hold on to the experience and prolong it and have more experiences like it. If it's something we find unpleasant, we tend to react with aversion.

We want it to stop or we try to avoid it or try to make it go away. And if the experience is something we find neutral, we tend to react with a lack of interest. We don't notice it or don't care about it or tune out and look for something new and more interesting. Now let's look at what happens when we experience something unpleasant and react with aversion.

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