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How to Know Yourself


Alain De Botton




One of the hardest things in the universe to understand is the interior of our own minds: we can have spent decades on the earth before we've grasped even very basic things about who we are and how we function. It's not for nothing that the Ancient Greeks felt philosophy had only one command: Know yourself! But however arduous, the journey can be facilitated by a few well-aimed bits of advice…


Many of us are wondering the earth accomplished in many ways capable of fulfillment at many points. But with a fundamental wound that stops us from becoming who we truly might be. We don't quite know who we are. It isn't Of course, that we can't remember the basics of our biographies. we're unsure around two things in particular. Firstly, we don't have a stable sense of what we're worth.

And secondly, we don't have a secure hold on our own values, or judgments. Without knowing who we are. We tend to have particular trouble coping with either denigration or adulation. If other people decide that we are worthless or bad, there will be nothing inside us to prevent us from swallowing their verdicts in their entirety. However wrongheaded extreme or unkind these might be, will be helpless before the court of public opinion, will always be asking other people

what we deserve before seeking inside for an answer. Lacking an independent verdict. We also stand to be unnaturally hungry for external praise.

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